Grief - A Return to Balance.

Grief can run our life's for many years, it can stay dormant deep in the layers of our psyche and be triggered by certain sounds, smells and events that bring memories flooding back. Those things that we thought we had "control over" until being confronted by a certain unexpected situation, then we are thrown back into grief again.

Everyone has some form of grief be it loss of a job, retirement, financial loss, loss of a pet as well as a relationship break down or a loved one passing.

How can we return to balance in 2019 and release the emotional pain that is stuck and blocked, waiting to be triggered leaving us in an uncontrolled state?

Why Grieve?

First is to understand how and why our memories are stored. We store memories based on what we believe is either pleasure or pain. For example we remember the good memories from a great holiday or how someone made us fee "complete" in a relationship and the feeling of freedom that wealth brings. Equally the words someone spoke that hurt us or the pain of not being able to buy something we like and the sorrow of a broken marriage. These memories are stored to assist with our survival instincts. These survival instincts are based on how our environment has molded us. "What is good supports you", "What is bad, we stay away from".

When someone close to us dies or if a relationship breaks down our mind remember what was good about that person or relationship and we start to miss the support and good feeling that it gave us. Hence we start to grieve.

A Universal law

To return to a state of balance is to apply a more even approach to the death of the person or the break down of the relationship. To have more balance we have to apply two universal laws. A universal law is a law that within the universe and can not be changed or altered, it continually existing even if we can not see it or understand its.

One of these law's is the law of transformation this means that the universe always provides. Hence when loved one passes, it is not the person we miss so much as what they meant to us. They were are support, they listened to us, they eat with us, they hugged us. Using a unique process you can now see who is now supporting you, who listens to you, who hugs you. You can be guided through this process in a Grief consult session.

The second law is the law of yin yang this can be interpreted as support/challenge, benefit/drawback , serving/not serving. Everyone and everything is controlled by the law of yin yang. This can be applied to what we miss in our loved one. When the yin yang law is applied the belief system in the mind changes and becomes more balanced which then releases the attachment to the emotional charges stuck in our psyche.

Dealing with grief

Many societies believe that coping with grief is all we can do. It is something that we have to process and it takes time . This is usually due to not fully understanding that when the 2 universal laws, mentioned above are applied in a professional setting using a unique process, grief within a matter of 3-4 session depending on the individual and of course the willingness to let go of grief.